SHOBA UMOORE TALIBAAT HOLDS VIRTUAL SEMINAR

On Sunday, 11th September, 2022, a virtual seminar was held under Shoba Umoore Talibaat (Department of Student Affairs) on zoom on two interesting topics; “recognizing moods, the ability to master emotional intelligence” and “the muslim woman and effective communication.” The seminar was chaired by Hajia Fatiha Mubeena Adusei Donkor (Naib Sadr III). Miss Hamamat Obeng a student from University of Ghana, started the program with a melodious recitation of the Holy Qur’an. Hajia Rahmat Ayyub Ainoosin (UT sec) led the participants in the recitation of the Lajna pledge. The chair for the seminar, Hajia Fatiha Mubeena Adusei Donkor (Naib Sadr III) gave her introductory remarks. Our beloved Sadr Lajna Mulk, Hajia Anisa Nasirudeen-Iddrisu joined us briefly and left for and equally important meeting.

The seminar was in two folds, i.e. the first and second presentations. The first topic, ‘Recognizing moods, the ability to master emotional intelligence’ was delivered by Miss Mufida Mubarak (Naib Secretary UT) and the second topic, The Muslim woman and effective communication’ was delivered by Hajia Rahmat Ayyub Ainoosin respectively.

  • The first speaker, Miss Mufida Mubarak started with how to recognize moods, where she made mention of calming oneself down, identifying and being aware of the one- word emotions at hand, added that in the case of being angry, one should try as much as possible not to act but try to calm oneself down. She continued her presentation and threw more light on what emotional intelligence is and how one can master it. Emotional intelligence (EQ) refers to one’s capacity to process their emotions – and the emotions of other people – and make reasonable conclusions she said and she made mention of some characteristics of emotional intelligence which are;

  •  Self-Awareness – she said, people with high emotional intelligence are usually very self – aware. They understand their emotions, and because of this, they don't let their feelings rule them. They're confident – because they trust their intuition and don't let their emotions get out of control. They're also willing to take an honest look at themselves. They know their strengths and weaknesses, and they work on these areas so they can perform better. Many people believe that this self-awareness is the most important part of emotional intelligence.

  • Self-Regulation – This is the ability to control emotions and impulses. People who self-regulate typically do not allow themselves to become too angry or jealous, and they do not make impulsive, careless decisions. They think before they act. Characteristics of self-regulation are thoughtfulness, comfort with change, integrity and the ability to say no.

  • Motivation – People with a high degree of emotional intelligence are usually motivated. They are willing to defer immediate results for long-term success. They are highly productive, love a challenge, and are very effective in whatever they do.

  • Empathy – This is perhaps the second-most important element of emotional intelligence. Empathy is the ability to identify with and understand the wants, needs, and viewpoints of those around you. People with empathy are good at recognizing the feelings of others, even when those feelings may not be obvious. As a result, empathetic people are usually excellent at managing relationships, listening and relating to others. They avoid stereotyping and judging too quickly, and they live their lives in a very open, honest way.

  • Social Skills – It is usually easy to talk to and like people with good social skills, another sign of high emotional intelligence. People with strong social skills are typically team players. Rather than focusing on their own success first, they help others develop and shine. They can manage disputes, are excellent communicators, and are masters at building and maintaining relationships.

She concluded her presentation by advising that, controlling one’s mood and not letting your mood to control you, after which she spoke about how that can be achieved.

 

The second speaker, Hajia Rahmat Ayyub Ainoosin took over and started with her presentation on ‘The Muslim woman and effective communication.’ She also started with who a Muslim woman is, and she said she is that lady who has resolved to submit to the will of the Almighty Allah, bears witness to His oneness, and attests to the fact that Mohammad (saw) is His Messenger, continued with the mechanism in hearing, and mentioned the anatomical structures that were involved in communication. She continued with what communication is; Communication involves translating any thought process into simple and meaningful messages through an appropriate channel, the types and also how to interact effectively using communication and added that, effective communication fosters trust saves you from problem/troubles, ability to resolve issues /problems, enriches your marriage, creates and maintains relationships and enhances productivity, etc.

She spoke about the Islamic perspective on communication and gave some Qur’anic verses and Ahadith to support her presentation

  • Ch 2:264 A kind word and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury. And Allah is Self-Sufficient, Forbearing.

  • Ch 3:160 ‘’…...and consult them in matters of administration; and when thou art determined, then put thy trust in Allah. Surely, Allah loves those who put their trust in Him.

  • Ch 4:149 Allah likes not the uttering of unseemly speech in public, except on the part of one who is being wronged. Verily, Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing

  • Abu Hurayrah relates that God’s Messenger, may the mercy and blessings of God be upon him, said:

“Whoever believes in God and the Last Day should speak a good word or remain silent."

(Al Bukhari & Muslim)

  • Uqbah bin 'Amir said: I asked: O Messenger of Allah, how can you be saved? He answered,

"Take care of your words; let your home be free and weep for your sins." (Hadith At – Tarmidzi : 2330).

She also concluded with the principles of communication some she mentioned keeping a smile, avoidance of unnecessary argument, extending salaam to a sister, etc.

After her presentation, an open forum session continued and the audience had the opportunity to ask questions, clarify their misunderstanding.

The Chairperson gave her closing remarks and a closing prayer was said. Alhamdulillah, it was a successful seminar.