TA’LIM AND TARBIYYAT VIRTUAL EDUCATION PROGRAM
A virtual Ta’lim and Tarbiyyat education program was held on 3rd April, 2022. The program began with the reciation of the Holy Qur’an with English translation. After the opening prayer, Sadr Lajna Mulk led the recitation of the Lajna Imaillah pledge after which she gave her opening remarks. The main highlight of the program was a presentation on the topic, ‘The Praciticality of Marriage in Islam.’ The speaker was Hajia Rahmat Ayyub Ainooson, Secretary Umoore Talibaat. In her presesention, the speaker said that marriage is a sacrifice because couples are born and breed differently and are from different backgrounds, so there is a lot of compromise. She added that the following issues may arise in marriage due to differences in background such as; differences in opinions, disagreements and misunderstandings, differences of interests, differences in likes and dislikes. She then gave ways as to how to make these happenings work for us positively. Suppress your anger to avoid conflict, swallow your pride, drop entrenched aspirations if you have any, and treat your relationship anew.
The speaker beautifully advised that as a wife, one should have a good opinion of her spouse, think good of him, do not accuse your partners of misdeeds based on hearsay, a wife should honour his status as a man and the head of the family and she should respect the family of her husband. She said that Allah says in the Holy Qur’an, ‘So virtuous women are those who are obedient, and guard the secrets of their husbands with Allah’s protection....’ [4:35]
Huzoor(aba) quoted the Promised Messiah(on whom be peace) on this subject: ‘Be compliant to your husbands with your heart and soul. Be obedient to them. A large party of their honour is in your hand....’ Thus discharge this responsibility if yours so well that you may be counted by God among the pious women and the obedient women.’ (Address delivered to ladies on 3rd June, 2004 at Jalsa Salana Holland)
Hajia Sahiba said, that in situations where there is an extreme case of infidelity etc, rishtanata can be conducted but the couple should always try to resolve the issues internally.
She added that as a wife, if a wrong has been made, apologize. Sometimes if the fault is not even yours for the sake of peace to prevail, apologize.
After the presentation, the forum was opened for questions and answers were provided by the speaker. Sadr Lajna Mulk and her Naib Sadraat also helped with the answers. Alhamdulillah the program ended successfully.